Tuesday, September 13, 2016
Have you ever been in a situation where you were in a lot of trouble and you prayed to the Heavens Above that if God were to get you through this one, you will never do it again? What did you do months down the road? My point is that a lot of people appreciate the troubled situation that they were in at the time, but rarely do those individuals actually make the most of that chance.
My encouragement to you is to take advantage of the chances that life gives. Too many times individuals focus on the negative aspects of life and disregard the positives. Almost always, there is a positive opportunity in any bad situation. One must open their eyes to see them and be smart enough to take advantage of them.
For example, breaking up with your spouse is a situation that most people may hate. However, it might turn out be one of the best decisions of your life. That person could have been holding you back from your success in the professional, personal, or spiritual realm. There are a lot of individuals who are with someone for comfort, a certain level of stability, etc. There is nothing wrong with being with a person for those reasons; however, you do not want to give up the great for the good.
After reading Sherman Williams’ book, “the Crimson Cowboy: The Rise and Fall of a Three-Time Champion,” I realized that a lot of individuals get second chances (even three or four) in life. But, it is all about what you do with those chances. What is it worth to have many chances if you decide not to get the most out of on them? It is almost worse than having no chance at all.
My encouragement to those who have had several chances or have had no chances at all is to keep moving forward from a positive viewpoint. If you have had several chances, wake up and realize them while capitalizing upon them. If you feel like you have not had any chances, take a positive look upon the situation and you will realize that you have a chance to do something good. Aut inveniam viam aut faciam. I shall either find a way or make one. HannibalRonnie O'Brien Rice, Ph.D., J.D.
Monday, September 5, 2016
You often hear that ‘your network determines your net-worth.’ This is true on some many levels. However, you do not hear how to change your network or even how should create it.
Recently, I discovered as I achieved new goals in my life, my network is bound to change. This is not due to me feeling like I am better than anyone. It is purely because with each accomplishment of a new goal brings new people and new way of doing things. Others may not comprehend or do not want to because they are comfortable in the environment that they have been in for years.
I have discovered that to create your new network, you must be vigilant in ascertaining those who are either at the level you want to be or desperately striving to achieve that level. This may seem hard at first, but it is very simple. Just look for those folks who operate in the circle of individuals that you classify as being successful, goal oriented, athletics, singers, business people, etc. You will find that they are all around you.
The next step is to determine who would do you the most benefit in being in your circle. This is important because a person may be successful or on their way to being prosperous, but may not do you any good. These folks may be the ones who will do anything including harming others to get what they want. You want to avoid them.
Once you find these folks you want to surround yourself with, start making time for them. Whether it is coffee at the local Starbuck’s, meeting them at the same gym, lunches, etc. I know this sounds trivial; however, most successful people just don’t have time to sit around to entertain folks who are thinking about being successful. They only have time for those who are serious about being successful.
Ronnie O’Brien Rice, Ph.D., J.D.
Monday, August 29, 2016
If your timeline is shorter than it should be, then you are going to be anxious. I want to reinforce to be anxious for nothing because what is for you IS FOR YOU! I know this may seem like an old church saying; however, there is a lot of truth to it. If you put in the work, did your homework, and basically did everything you could do to prepare yourself for the next level in life, then you are in the right place.
I know some of you are asking is there something else for you to do while you wait for that promotion, your bank account to increase, or you to find the love of your life. Yes, there is always something else can be done. But, in the business world there is a term call the ‘law of the diminishing returns.’ Meaning, that a person can put too much into something and do not yield a significant amount of return that is comparable to that of what is initially invested.
All in all, this post is to encourage those who seems like the have been waiting on the next step in life for a long time. To ensure that you are in the right place at the right time; (1) make sure you have done everything you can to prepare yourself for next level; and (2) trust in yourself.
Ronnie O’Brien Rice, Ph.D., J.D.
Sunday, August 28, 2016
Often times, many people try to hide who they really are in hopes of society accepting them as a person. Here is a shocking reality. If the world was to accept the person you put out in front of everyone, then it is still not accepting of the ‘true’ you.
We must remember that it is important to effectively communicate, dress appropriately, and respect each other opinions. However, all these things do not mean that we totally lose ourselves in the irrelevant matters of life. One way to determine the irrelevant parts of life is to see if the action and/or behavior are conducive to the progression of anyone in society. If the answer to that question is no, then there is no need to worry about it.
Transparency is important to have a successful relationship with anyone, prosperous career, and less stressful life. Once you let people know who you really are and your motives, you find that they will either love you or dissociate themselves away from you. Either response is great. Those who stick with you will help you build your dreams. And those who do not were not going to do you good anyway.
Now, transparency is more than just putting your business on the streets. It is about trusting those who love you and allowing them to see who you really are. Those individuals, if they are true family and friends (Tony Robbins may say peers), they will help you deal with any issues and give you a helping hand to pull you up to the next level.
All in all, remember to be transparent, honest, and straightforward (politely). This may be the determining factor in you moving to the next level in life. Be careful to expose your true feelings and thoughts to anyone. Choose the person carefully and see their reaction. Now, hold on to your seat because you are moving to the next fantastic level in your life.
Ronnie O’ Brien Rice, Ph.D., J.D.
Thursday, August 25, 2016
They say experience is the best teacher. I disagree with this wholeheartedly. The best teacher is observing and listening to others. You can learn from others mistakes, best decisions, experiences good or bad. The return of investment includes all of benefits of the upswing while minimizing all the risks on the downswing.
A lot of people ask me ‘how did I make it out the hood?’ My responses vary. But, the most common response is that when I saw one person shooting in one area, I ran the other way. Some may say this this ‘law of Darwinism’ survival of the fittest. I like to say it is person being conscience of their surroundings while knowing what they want in the long run.
I think it is important to believe in what you want because no matter what that person is faced with, they are going to make decisions whether major or minor, towards their ultimate goal.We all need to learn from others whether good or bad. This helps us to move ourselves, family, friends, and the general society around us to the next level.
I have found that in organizations, employees and leaders fail continuously while employing the same tactics to achieve another level of success as an organization. Have you ever been in an organization where you have to tell five people the same reason for not engaging in a specific behavior; and regardless of what you tell them, they continue to travel down the same road? This makes the organization operate at low and efficient level. This may not seem much in a small or large organization, but if you have several individuals making the same decision that could have clearly been avoided; those small similar mistakes add up to huge profit margin losses.
All in all, learn from others mistakes and good decisions. Their experience may help you to move to the next level in life.
Ronnie O. Rice, Ph.D., J.D.
Sunday, August 21, 2016
Zig Ziglar put it best, “you only can consistently perform in a manner that is consistent with the way you see yourself.” This is true in every area of a person’s life. I would go one step further and propose that one must understand what they want to see for themselves while aligning those thoughts with their desires and actions.
Often times, people want things that they really do not want. It is funny because you would think that adult individuals would know what the actually want. However, I have found that a lot of people think they want a million dollars or a beautiful spouse; but do nothing to achieve those goals. This suggests that a person does not really want these things. I mean if you are hungry, you find something to eat right?
What I suggest to people is to find out what they really want. You can usually determine this by observing what people spend most of their time doing, thinking about, or working towards. For example, a person who thinks of having a loving spouse rather than a model suggests that the person values internal beauty over outer beauty. Society depicts what most think they want in a relationship as two super models, with perfect financial skills, and law degree. However, in reality many find that they want someone who is genuine, down-to-earth, and loving. Everything else is just fluff.
I would caution a person to avoid apologizing for who you are. Too many times, folks have false goals because they are working towards someone else’s goals. If you love life and those who are in it, you will find yourself achieving the goals you truly desire because it all comes naturally.
Ronnie O. Rice, Ph.D., J.D.
Sunday, August 14, 2016
Too many times, folks achieve a certain amount of success and that’s it. They begin to say it is time to travel, party, and try out new restaurants. However, I think those who have been called for a higher purpose realize life is about helping others while achieving self-interested goals. More importantly, once you achieve your goals, celebrate your accomplishments while keeping in stride to your next one. I have often heard that the greatest enemy to growth is success.
Many successful people have a hard time finding a mate because one is focusing on having fun, and the other is focusing on enjoying life while building an empire and helping others.
Think of your life as a decathlon. A decathlon is a combined event in athletics consisting of ten track and field events over a period of two days (Wikipedia, 2016). The winner is measured based on the person’s performance in each single event and the person who has a collective average score higher than the others win. In your life, you are made to perform in different arenas. However, your success in one may determine your success in another.
I am not suggesting that we all need to be working all the time; however, I do suggest that our goals should include helping others. I find it difficult to spend a lot of money on dinners, cars, and travel knowing that the same money can be spent helping others.
The purpose of this post is to encourage everyone to accomplish their goals and celebrate the milestones, but always keep striving towards toward the next one. If your goals are truly honest, they should not only include selfish motivations e.g., purchasing a home, upgrading your car, etc. Your goals should include helping others i.e., feeding the homeless, tithing, volunteering your time, etc.
Ronnie O. Rice, Ph.D., J.D.
Thursday, August 11, 2016
Often times, people are put in frustrating situations and do not understand why they are in them. My experience has taught me that the purpose is to teach us valuable life lessons. For example, a college friend always had an issue he was dealing with in his life.
One day he was venting about financial issues, car problems, girlfriend problems, etc. Just abruptly, he asked how I avoided similar situations. I never knew the answer this question until years later: positive outlook and execution. Instead of dwelling on the negative situation, I learned to focus on the opportunities presented and how to capitalize upon them.
My suggestion to anyone who is in a difficult or frustrating situation, please find opportunities to make the situation better. Or better yet, please find opportunities outside of the present negative situation. For example, if you are dealing with a difficult situation at the office whether it is with a person or position, ask yourself what YOU can do to achieve the desired results.
After thinking and strategizing on it, act on it. I know this sounds simple, but we all possess the power to improve our current situation. Sometimes it takes guts and faith to step out there to achieve your success. You may not have all of the answers at the present moment, but you can find them as you working through your growth process.
Ronnie O. Rice, Ph.D., J.D.
Sunday, August 7, 2016
What is “knowing your worth?”
How to determine your worth?
How to increase your value (worth)?
What to do with your worth?
The first question is simple. Knowing your worth is having a high level of self-awareness, recognizing your skills, and operating with an extraordinary level of honesty within your life. All of these traits seem simple, but you will be surprised that many are not familiar or in tune with who they are.
The second question takes a more in-depth analysis of oneself. One may determine their worth from a spiritual, financial, and physical standpoint. I am of the belief that one must use all three at the same time. Determining your spiritual worth is to align your spiritual being with that of a higher power through a mental and behavioral worldview. Determining your financial worth seems to be easy. However, it is not about having the most money. It is about knowing the amount of money needed to live a lifestyle you are comfortable with and empowering yourself to make or invest that type of money. Lastly, one’s physical health must be in line with one’s spiritual and financial desires. If you do not have healthy living practices, what is the point of having a healthy spiritual and financially life?
One can increase their value through education (both formal and self), self-discipline, helping others, and just simply taking one step towards their goals a day. In a world that constantly bombards the general population with facts, social media content, and advertisement; one may get very confused and frustrated. My advice is to do some research and try something that is solid.
The most important question of these four is ‘what to do with your worth.’ Please, do not simply sit on your gift. Apply for the right job, start your own business, go for it, and help others. Our worth was given to us to share. In Bob Proctor’s book, You Were Born Rich, he states that money is meant to be in circulation. I believe this is true with money and your gifts. Money for me is just a example of your gifts. So put your gifts into circulation.
~ Ronnie O. Rice, Ph.D., J.D.
Wednesday, August 3, 2016
Some people make money from being impulsive. However, I know very few people who have obtained a long-term success outcome by continuing to practice in such a way.
Some reasons why people lack self-control include: lack of plan, lack of first want, no respect for self-control, or simple not believing in it. I am sure there are more; however, these are a few that come to mind. Self-control, I have found, is more about you and others. It has little to do with actually buying a larger home, fancy car, or obtaining a big corner office. It more about how you are able to interact with the world around you. For example, self-control with dieting is important for you to look and feel healthy. More so, it is more about how long you live on this earth and how you are able to play and work with your love ones.
I find that a person does better with self-control if they remind themselves of the reason they started upon this mission in the first place. On the other hand, I find that if people break down their goals into smaller steps, one may carry out more in a shorter period. The way to eat an elephant is one bite at a time. This is true with self-control. Start off small and in short time intervals. This is very much important when you find that your goal includes several hundred small steps. It may seem like the end is far off; however, as long as you break those goals (for self-control purposes) into smaller steps; it is easier to exercise it in times of need.
Also, self-control deals largely with fatigue. Don’t try to tackle goals while being exhausted. Do it both when rested and fatigued. Practicing self-control when well rested prepares you for the tough times.
All in all, self-control is very important in succeeding in any area of life. Furthermore, success in the field of self-control it is important to engage in small short steps and remember the reasoning for doing so.
Ronnie O. Rice, Ph.D., J.D.
Saturday, July 30, 2016
Knowing yourself is one of the healthiest mindsets to have. It allows you to perform at a higher level than most. Also, knowing yourself determines the level of your goal attainment. Some primary ways to getting to know your self is to recognize your goals; focus on the goals you want to achieve, and block out distractions.
Know your goals
You can determine your goals by (1) taking a personality evaluation, (2) enrolling in some stimulating continuing education courses, (3) or trying different activities that peak your interest. Doing chores, helping with the kids’ homework, and working are all apart of life. However, they do not define us. We must spend genuine time with ourselves to define who we are and what we want out of life. We have the ability to achieve anything we set our mind to accomplish. The key to success is to set our minds to do it.
Focus on goals
Next, write down your goals in a concise format and never let them leave your sight. This not only reminds you what you working for on a daily basis, but it reinforces the desires you have in life. When having a lot of tasks on the agenda, one may become consumed with the monotonous life and forget their overall purpose. I have often found that people who get frustrated easily have forgotten their greater purpose. So by putting your goals in front of you constantly increase your chances of achieving them and decreasing stress.
Find out what distracts you. Structure your life events in a way that enables you to get them done and allow time for you to focus upon achieving your goals. This takes the art of mastering your time and energy. For example, working at the job usually takes 8 hours. Make sure you dedicate your time and energy for the job; AT THE JOB. Once you get home, do the home activities when it needs to be done e.g., helping with homework, cooking dinner, etc. But, when done, turn your focus immediately upon your goals, not television, Facebook (unless it is part of your goal), etc.
So know your self includes recognizing your goals; focusing on the goals you want to achieve, and blocking out distractions. Let’s face it, achieving your goals not only help you, but help your family, church members, and your employers/coworkers.
~ Ronnie O. Rice, Ph.D.