|From Will Smith's fourth single "Just the two of Us"|
Sunday, March 3, 2013
Forgive yourself. Allow yourself to succeed.
A great actor, motivator and lyricist: Will Smith
As I’ve been pondering about my life, my travels and the people I’ve met, I realized that I made a lot of bad choices and/or mistakes. However, I think what has allowed me to succeed in spite of my downfalls is the ability to look towards the future and forgive myself. There is no way to ‘right’ your every ‘wrong’: (1) it could be very time consuming; and (2) it takes you away from the things you could be doing in the present. A major reason for people not succeeding in their own desired capacities is because they are either stuck in the past or living in the future. On one hand, you want to remember the past and learn from your mistakes. On the other hand, you want to have goals and continuously strive to meet those goals. As a person who has done both and some time struggle to balance those behaviors, it is extremely important to be well balanced and versed in the both. One method to initiate that balance is to surround yourself with people who weren’t positive, being encouraging or understanding of my success path. People who only knew the past and wanted to stay there surrounded me. It wasn’t their fault because that’s what life seemingly dealt them and they felt more than obligated to reinforced that belief on me. The key to handling people with such mind mentality is to encourage them to achieve the goals that they once had in life and assist them in achieving them while you continually obtain your personal goals. Positivity and motivation is very contagious. No matter the person, when they see someone close to them succeeding, they want to know the secret. So give it to them. All in all, we must forgive ourselves for the past mistakes and bad decisions. Then and only then, we can move forward with achieving the goals we have set because you never want to settle and live in the past; but, you want to enjoy the present while understanding your future.