Friday, December 7, 2012

Everyone doesn't understand your success path… Stop trying to convince them

In my experience, some of those around you may have a hard time understanding your steps to success. We spend a lot of time explaining the reason for engaging in specific steps rather than actually engaging in those tasks. This post is simply about knowing who to explain your projected path of growth with and who not to do so. The fundamental equation includes observation. We must observe others’ response to our thoughts of success attainment. For example, when you tell some one your plans in life, there are to general possible responses: (1) jump for joy and figure out ways to make it happen; or (2) respond casually with an accompany list of reasons why you shouldn’t do it. Many confused giving advice with tearing down others dreams (or keeping it real). The way to determine if you are helping someone achieve their dreams is ask your self a question:  How would you feel if some one responded to your aspirations in the manner you responded to someone else's'? One of the common and most effective techniques of building others is to model your methods based on personal desires. We find reasons to rationalize our response to others in a manner harsher than we would like. However, we are all human. Treating others harsher than we would like is one of the common practices within countless corporate environments. There seems to be a strong disconnection between senior leadership and inexperienced personnel. Even more, there seems to be significant differences in the belief of steps that is needed to become successful. One avenue is corporate hazing. Corporate hazing has be around for years. Corporate hazing means senior executives make new employees engage in various behaviors in order for them to receive promotions within the company. However, with new times, there comes a new method of becoming successful. We can look at technology companies and educational institutions to observe the changes the world continues to make. In order to compete within this market, it is imperative that we, as self-motivated leaders, constantly question our motives to ensure that we are delivery the best service and products to our consumers, a.k.a. ourselves. Also, there seems to be a mindset of folks who wants to provide a service and product that they wouldn’t buy themselves. We must stop thinking that the consumer is someone else other than family, friends and ourselves. When we grow in our thoughts of services and products, true success will follow and be achieved. So, stop trying to compel others to understand your path to success because the very person you may be trying to convince may be the obstacle to your success. Trust in yourself and your ability to achieve your dreams.


  1. This post goes hand and hand with the previous. Surrounding yourself with great people not only motivates you, but allows you to continue to dream big and aspire to new heights.

  2. Thank you, darlin. You are awesome.