Friday, December 7, 2012

Everyone doesn't understand your success path… Stop trying to convince them

In my experience, some of those around you may have a hard time understanding your steps to success. We spend a lot of time explaining the reason for engaging in specific steps rather than actually engaging in those tasks. This post is simply about knowing who to explain your projected path of growth with and who not to do so. The fundamental equation includes observation. We must observe others’ response to our thoughts of success attainment. For example, when you tell some one your plans in life, there are to general possible responses: (1) jump for joy and figure out ways to make it happen; or (2) respond casually with an accompany list of reasons why you shouldn’t do it. Many confused giving advice with tearing down others dreams (or keeping it real). The way to determine if you are helping someone achieve their dreams is ask your self a question:  How would you feel if some one responded to your aspirations in the manner you responded to someone else's'? One of the common and most effective techniques of building others is to model your methods based on personal desires. We find reasons to rationalize our response to others in a manner harsher than we would like. However, we are all human. Treating others harsher than we would like is one of the common practices within countless corporate environments. There seems to be a strong disconnection between senior leadership and inexperienced personnel. Even more, there seems to be significant differences in the belief of steps that is needed to become successful. One avenue is corporate hazing. Corporate hazing has be around for years. Corporate hazing means senior executives make new employees engage in various behaviors in order for them to receive promotions within the company. However, with new times, there comes a new method of becoming successful. We can look at technology companies and educational institutions to observe the changes the world continues to make. In order to compete within this market, it is imperative that we, as self-motivated leaders, constantly question our motives to ensure that we are delivery the best service and products to our consumers, a.k.a. ourselves. Also, there seems to be a mindset of folks who wants to provide a service and product that they wouldn’t buy themselves. We must stop thinking that the consumer is someone else other than family, friends and ourselves. When we grow in our thoughts of services and products, true success will follow and be achieved. So, stop trying to compel others to understand your path to success because the very person you may be trying to convince may be the obstacle to your success. Trust in yourself and your ability to achieve your dreams.

Thursday, December 6, 2012


Surround yourself around with ‘GREAT’ people

Success in any arena hinges on who you surround yourself with; meaning the people who you talk with on a daily basis determines you success. YOUR NETWORK DETERMINES YOUR NET WORTH. Many times, you hear the phrase ‘self-made millionaires.’ I can’t stress too much how much of a false statement that is. Self-made success stories are only possible by the people you surround yourself with in your daily lives. Some people have an issue with doing such because they either (a) don’t know where to start or (b) they may feel that they are using the people around them to get something they want. Let’s address the first of these two statements, the way you improve your circle is to find people who are doing what you want to be doing or something similar and engage those people. Whether it is as simple text, phone call, email, or Facebook post, find some common ground to develop a relationship. Also, don’t set limits on the people you want to engage such as the president of the country or vice president of your company. When doing so, have a sincere heart. Let people know what you are trying to better your lifestyle. More importantly, embrace the person’s wisdom with passion. Too many times, people want things others have until they realize the obstacles that person had to go through to achieve their level of success. In those times, those people back off because they feel that it isn’t worth it. (This is the reason for medical doctors and attorneys residency programs. To ensure that the individual wants to go into this field and can handle the high level of stress that comes along with being in those fields). Secondly, don’t simply connect or talk with certain folks because you want to get something out of them. Always approach these individuals with something you can give them, e.g. time, assistance, other resources. This way of thinking and engagement allows the other person to better see that you not only want to improve the way you live, but you want to give back to the community. Usually, this is half of the battle for many individuals. Even though they don’t like where they are, they don’t want to give up the little they have for the chance of something greater. So surround yourself with great people who are doing some of things you want to be doing and give back. True success is building up people around you while working on yourself.